I am an ordinary person who has what I believe to be an extraordinary job.  I am one of those lucky people who does what I am passionate about, fostering and educating people not only about sexuality but the authenticity that makes great sex possible.   I decided to specialize in sex therapy because of the couples I had worked with.  I noticed that unless I brought up sex, the client would not.  Once I did broach the subject of sex, the floodgates opened!  Addressing sexuality gave me a more comprehensive picture of each partner and of the relationship itself.   I consider it an honor that my clients trust me enough to reveal the more intimate aspects of their lives.  I understand that it is risky to tell someone else what you truly desire.  I also understand that vulnerability and transparency create an environment where erotic exploration is possible.  One of my well-honed skills is creating a safe environment where people can talk about sex and learn to communicate with their partners.

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One of my clients once said to me, "I like you!  You are REAL!"  As a therapist and a supervisor,  I am direct and sometimes compassionately blunt.  

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After providing sex therapy for 30 years, I have evolved.  I am not currently taking new clients.  For now, I am focusing on supervising therapists who want to be AASECT certified, teaching Human Sexuality to undergraduates, giving presentations, providing consultation on sex therapy cases, and writing.  I am still involved with Night Moves, a sexual health radio show on KSYM 90.1. 

I will be glad to send over my resume if you are interested.   Email me at askcay@yahoo.com

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If you are looking for sex therapy, please click on the page entitled San Antonio Sex Therapists. 

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The name of my website is derived from the blue pearl or nila bindu of yoga.  I have been drawn to blue pearls for years.  Within the practice of yoga, the blue pearl is the seed of consciousness.  By meditating on the blue pearl, a person experiences their own true journey.